Welcome to Day 4 of the Self-Reflection Challenge!
Today’s all about getting real with yourself: what do you honestly want and need in your life?
You might think you already know — and maybe you do — but slowing down to really think about it can give you way more clarity than you expect.
Sometimes we chase things because someone else wants it for us… not because it’s what we actually want.
This is your chance to figure out what’s truly important to you.
What Do You REALLY Want?
Ask yourself:
What do I want? Not what you think you’re “supposed” to want. Not what your parents, friends, teachers or work mates want for you. What you want. It could be anything — a dream job, better friendships, a new hobby, a whole new vibe for your life.
Knowing your real wants helps you make choices that actually make you happier — not just choices that “look good” on the outside.
What About Your Needs?
Needs are just as important!
Think about the stuff you need to feel safe, happy, and okay in life.
It could be big (like needing support from friends) or small (like needing more time to yourself).
Today’s Challenge
Write two lists:
- What you want in your life to feel happy.
- What you need right now to feel your best.
Questions to Help You Get Started
- How often do you actually stop and think about what you want in life?
- If you could have one of your “wants” today, what would it be?
- What do you need to feel truly fulfilled?
Pro Tip: Be honest and dream big! Your wants and needs are yours — they don’t have to make sense to anyone else.
Quotes about Desires and Needs
These quotes help you with giving yourself permission to have wants and needs. Number 7 is a good one for this. What’s your favourite? Mine is number 9.
- “You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress.” — Sophia Bush
- “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive.” — Howard Thurman
- “Knowing what you need is the first step toward getting it.” — Mae West
- “Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it.” — Maya Angelou
- “Your needs matter. Your desires matter. You matter.” — Unknown
- “Self-care is giving the world the best of you, not what’s left of you.” — Katie Reed
- “There is no shame in wanting more for your life.” — Unknown
- “Our greatest battles are those with our own desires.” — James Russell Lowell
- “The only thing standing between you and your goal is the story you keep telling yourself.” — Jordan Belfort
- “It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority.” — Mandy Hale
Clicking on the links below will take you to each day’s challenge:
Self Reflection Challenge Introduction
Day 1: Brain Dump About Your Life (includes free workbook)
Day 2: What Really Matters to You?
Day 3: Find the Good Stuff (Gratitude Time!)
Day 6: Imagine Your Dream Life
After the 7 Day Self Reflection Challenge: What Did You Learn About Yourself?
Browse our self-care library or join in the challenges below:
Self-Love Challenge
Mindfulness Challenge
Self-Care Challenge
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